Wedding Invitation Advice..

In reading up about tips for planning your wedding day and dealing with any sticky situations which arise, you have probably seen your fair share of advice along the lines of ‘it's your wedding, do it your way and don't worry about anyone else!'

While this advice is great coming from an anonymous internet advice columnist, it rarely translates to real life wedding planning situations, and nor should it. Your wedding is your special day, that's right, but you are planning a wedding to share this special event with your friends and family, if you didn't want them involved, you would have eloped.

But you didn't, and while your wedding day is mostly about you, it is also partly about your friends and family who have forked out for a nice outfit, had their hair done, bought new shoes, bought you and expensive gift from your registry and just sat through a long ceremony and often even longer speeches.

So while there are people you may like/not like to invite to your wedding, in making these choices consider your fiancée, your family and your other guests. For example, inviting ex-partners can get messy so only do so if you and your fiancée have a good relationship with them. Don't feel bad if you want a child free wedding but this goes for kids in the bridal party, and not just leaving out the kids who are spoilt brats and inviting the rest.

Then there are the people with the worst wedding behaviour - they're loud, get drunk, smoke or can be bet on to use the candle in the centrepiece to light the tablecloth, or inhale the helium from the balloon decorations. In this situation either talk to them about curbing their behaviour before the big night, or leave them off the list for the sake of everyone else.

Inviting long lost relatives and second, third or fourth cousins is great if you have the wedding budget for it but if you can't afford for your guest list to hit the 500 mark, don't feel bad about not inviting them. And of course there are those people you just don't like - the partner of your cousin, your fiancée's grandparents and you have your reasons. While it would be easy to say - ‘it's your wedding, invite who YOU want' it's not that easy when family is involved so just remember, after greeting them in the receiving line you don't have to have anything more to do with them and you probably won't even notice they're there, not to mention you get the points for being the bigger person and inviting them.